Having to justify your every move.

I don't drink coffee, because I don't like the taste. It has nothing to do with my teeth getting brown. There are a lot health benefits to drinking black coffee, I know. But I don't like it.

How did it come to this? Having to justify your very action and decision. If you make a conscious effort of eating healthy your a fanatic. If you choose to eat most of your meals at McDonalds you're automatically labeled as both lazy and not caring about your own health and well-being. People are so quick to judge and come to their own conclusions without knowing the whole story, and even though it shouldn't bother me, it does. I don't like feeling like I have to justify eating healthy, not working out on a regular basis, not drinking coffee, and not drinking alcohol.

I don't hide the fact that I'm of a christian belief, nor that I don't drink alcohol. But those two facts about me have got nothing to do with each other. I used to drink alcohol, and then I stopped. I don't drink alcohol because A) it gives me one hell of a migraine and B) I don't like the feeling it gives me, or the taste of it. 

I eat to much or not enough, I drink way to much water and I should drink more of it. I should lose weight, I should just tighten up a bit. I wear to much black or grey and I should wear heels more often. It seems everyone has something to say about the way others look, behave and treat themselves. This year I'm going to try to shut those people out, listen to my gut and eat what I want, wear what I want and do the things I want to do. Everyone else can do whatever they want as far as I'm concerned (-:

Insecurities

I don't talk too much about being insecure. It's a part of who I am, and I embrace it for what it is, but it doesn't define me. As I've grown older I have realised that most of us have insecurities about something, it may be small insecurities that does not affect your day to day life, or it's larger insecurities that define every waking moment it.

Time has taught me that you can't judge a book by it's cover. You'll never be able to tell how someone really are just by looking at them. The biggest bitch you've ever met,  the quiet girl in the corner or the nice and popular guy with loads of friends may all have insecurities as far as we know. Some of us don't want to talk about it, and we should respect that by not pressing them for information, let them be, it's ok not to know everything. If someone does want to talk about it, but you feel uncomfortable in that situation, tell them. I'm sure they will understand.

Nothing hurts more than having someone else point out your insecurities. They may not mean anything by it, or maybe it's just a small comment in a bigger conversation. Nevertheless, it hurts like a bitch if you say the wrong thing.

So, please: Be nice to people, think before you speak and smile to a stranger once in a while, you might make someone's day.

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Difference of opinion

Some people can't handle the fact that others don't share their views and and perspectives on different matters. They become upset if your opinion is different than theirs, and if you have a way with words and can speak your case you might, just might,  have ruined their entire week.

I'm a Christian, I believe in God and I try to live by the values of the bible. Now, I'm not a fanatic, nor do I go to church ever or preach the word of the Lord to everyone who doesn't want to hear it. I've also been living with a man I'm not married to for the past four years, but that's a story for another day.  I won't push my opinions on you, and I expect the same in return. I don't understand what makes people think that belittling your views and opinions is in any way OK. Because it's not. At all. Telling me that god does not exist won't make say; "well, okay then! I'm Atheist now". It's a matter of respect. I respect that you don't believe, I just wish these people would respct the fact that I do and just leave it at that. Not every single Christian is a judgemental arse by the way, just saying.

It doesn't end at religion. Off the top of my head I can list Rasicm, Politics and personal taste as things I don't expect others to share my views on, and that I know some people will expect that I do share theirs. Honestly, if you can't respect that you and I have different views on things then I really don't understand why we're talking to each other. I don't need that in my life at all. By the way, if you've EVER started a sentence with "I'm not a racist, but..." then yes you are, little bit. A little bit racist.

Just imagine how boring life would be if everyone agreed on everything. Think of those politic debates, can you say party? "We believe this and that!" "we agree!"....... well, that would be fun!